{"id":3327,"date":"2017-11-09T08:37:11","date_gmt":"2017-11-09T08:37:11","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.dreamweddingshawaii.com\/?p=3327"},"modified":"2019-10-03T05:10:46","modified_gmt":"2019-10-03T05:10:46","slug":"youre-getting-married-in-hawaii-now-who-pays-for-everything","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.dreamweddingshawaii.com\/youre-getting-married-in-hawaii-now-who-pays-for-everything\/","title":{"rendered":"You’re Getting Married in Hawaii, Now Who Pays For Everything?"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"money-grows-1024x632<\/a><\/p>\n

DON’T YOU WISH MONEY GREW ON TREES?<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n

I’ll just come out and say it.\u00a0 I don’t care what the circumstance is, money can make or break a friendship.\u00a0 It can even sever ties between close family members.\u00a0 I didn’t have to say it – it’s common knowledge, right?\u00a0 But lately, in this hipster world, it’s not.\u00a0 \u00a0Mo Money – Mo Problems, like Puff used to say (or is it P Diddy now, what the hell does he call himself now?)<\/p>\n

So, when it comes to your wedding?\u00a0 \u00a0Who fronts the bill?\u00a0 You, your fiance, your father, your fiance’s mother, your cousin’s best friends roommate’s uncle?<\/p>\n

You have bridesmaids.\u00a0 \u00a0Who pays for their dresses, make-up, and shoes?<\/p>\n

And your reception?<\/p>\n

And your ceremony?<\/p>\n

What about tradition?\u00a0 Shouldn’t the Father of the Bride pay for the reception and ceremony – or was it the other way around…\u00a0 the Mother of the Groom?<\/p>\n

Answer:\u00a0 SCREW TRADITION AND YOU AND YOUR FIANCE PAY FOR EVERYTHING.<\/strong><\/p>\n

If you want to keep relationships nice and tidy for everyone, I repeat, you and your fiance should pay for everything.\u00a0 This avoids all drama that money can create.\u00a0 And if you can’t afford to pay for a wedding in Hawaii yourself, then you shouldn’t do it.<\/p>\n

Before I piss off some brides who will scream and whine, “Steven, it’s the trend right now for bridesmaids to pay for their own dresses and make-up.”\u00a0 \u00a0And I will agree with them.\u00a0 But I will also say it’s a stupid trend.\u00a0 \u00a0You don’t invite a friend to be an honorary guest, then make them front hundreds of dollars to do it.\u00a0 \u00a0What if they are struggling with bills that month?\u00a0 \u00a0You just shoved them into debt.\u00a0 \u00a0I can tell you that I’ve heard bridesmaids gossip at weddings on how much their bride made them pay for their dresses, let’s just say it wasn’t very nice.\u00a0 \u00a0I’ve seen friendships on bridal courts lost over deciding who pays for what.<\/p>\n

So repeat – Pay for everything, end of story.<\/p>\n

There are exceptions to my rule “that you pay for everything.”\u00a0 \u00a0If anyone wants to bless your wedding by paying for something, then it’s 100% okay.\u00a0 \u00a0That’s different than telling a guest you’re footing the bill for ____________(fill in the blank).<\/p>\n

Now, this conversation isn’t over yet.<\/p>\n

Even though you’re not married yet, start acting like you are.\u00a0 Marriage in the Bible means that you move one in flesh.<\/p>\n

It’s the:<\/p>\n

“Where you go I go” stuff.<\/p>\n

“What you make I make” stuff.<\/p>\n

“Your debt is my debt”<\/p>\n

“And boy, you better not buy that without asking me first,” stuff.<\/p>\n

Don’t split the bill for your wedding, honeymoon, or anything.\u00a0 Don’t split your\u00a0rent.\u00a0 Don’t tell your future husband, I’ll pay for the dress and you pay for the wedding.\u00a0 \u00a0Be in one in flesh, not two accounts.\u00a0 Operate together, on everything.\u00a0 Add your significant other to your Costco account, combine bank accounts.\u00a0 You get what I’m saying.<\/p>\n

Alright, peeps.\u00a0 I’m outta here.\u00a0 You got financial advice and marriage advice from someone who is a college dropout.\u00a0 \u00a0Take it or leave it.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

DON’T YOU WISH MONEY GREW ON TREES? I’ll just come out and say it.\u00a0 I don’t care what the circumstance is, money can make or break a friendship.\u00a0 It can even sever ties between close family members.\u00a0 I didn’t have to say it – it’s common knowledge, right?\u00a0 But lately, […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":3366,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[18,6],"tags":[],"aioseo_notices":[],"amp_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.dreamweddingshawaii.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3327"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.dreamweddingshawaii.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.dreamweddingshawaii.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.dreamweddingshawaii.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.dreamweddingshawaii.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3327"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.dreamweddingshawaii.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3327\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.dreamweddingshawaii.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/3366"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.dreamweddingshawaii.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3327"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.dreamweddingshawaii.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3327"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.dreamweddingshawaii.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3327"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}