I’ll steal a line from our politicians, but “Let Me Be Clear,” that feeling a bit nervous on your wedding day is 100% completely natural.\u00a0 \u00a0The real question is if it should be of any concern.<\/p>\n
There are two main reasons why couples feel a bit jittery on and before their wedding day:<\/p>\n
If a couple\u00a0has not been in touch with any their wedding vendors and can’t get a hold of them in any way, that couple has all the right to be nervous<\/strong><\/span>.\u00a0 \u00a0In fact, their nerves should be rattling because something is terribly wrong!\u00a0 All vendors should be in touch with their couples before your wedding, whether it’s via text, email, a meeting, or a simple phone call.<\/p>\n I’ve been to weddings where a couple hired just our minister and their photographer didn’t show up.\u00a0 Luckily, I had my camera and saved the day.\u00a0 \u00a0The photographer later contacted the couple and told the bride that he was busy and another photographer was supposed to cover him but didn’t show.\u00a0 \u00a0The photographer was a college student and apparently, he had his finals.\u00a0 \u00a0He refunded their money, but that wasn’t the point.\u00a0 \u00a0Ironically, he was a business major.\u00a0 \u00a0 I tell you what, he may have aced that test but he failed in business that day.<\/p>\n If you can’t get a hold of any wedding vendor, it’s time to kick them to the curb – fast before there’s trouble on your wedding day<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n If you’re a bride or a groom who is just anxious about everything turning out perfect, that’s natural, but it’s not healthy to obsess over it.\u00a0 \u00a0If you’re worried about rain, you’re going to be obsessed with checking weather reports.\u00a0 If you’re worried about the color of your table clothes, you’re going to hammer your rental company’s phone.\u00a0 There’s one thing to be concerned, it’s another thing to be obsessed.\u00a0 <\/span><\/p>\n This is exactly how Groomzillas or Bridezillas evolve out from rather sane individuals.\u00a0 Don’t evolve into a problem!<\/span><\/p>\n More than likely, everything is going to go right with your wedding if you hired out professionals for your wedding.\u00a0 \u00a0As for controlling the weather, you can plan for the worst, but if it’s going to rain, it’s going to rain, and you just have to accept it.<\/p>\n But overall, just go with the flow for that day and enjoy the moments that unfold.\u00a0 If there are any screw ups along the way, it’ll just be a great story to tell.\u00a0<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n I don’t have to say the obvious, but I will.\u00a0 Getting married is serious business.\u00a0 \u00a0In the next fifteen minutes, everything will change.\u00a0 \u00a0Your souls will be tied, along with your finances, let’s not forget your name and legal status.\u00a0 If you’re planning to start a family, it could all officially begin in the next fifteen minutes.\u00a0 I say “could” because some couples come to me with a family already started before they get married.<\/p>\n If you’re having doubts, cold feet, trust me, that’s natural.\u00a0 \u00a0It’s just a big moment.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n These days, what I tell my clients to calm themselves is rather simple.\u00a0 \u00a0I offer them the advice of abandoning all agendas in their mind; to not worry about the future, and to stop complaining about the past.\u00a0 \u00a0Live in this moment only.\u00a0 It’ll bring you, the bride or groom, clarity.\u00a0 \u00a0And then, you can think straight.<\/span><\/p>\n This works 99.9999999% of the time.<\/strong><\/p>\n There was a time when it didn’t work ~ wanna hear the story?<\/span><\/p>\n I’ll be the first to tell you that I’m no brain doctor.\u00a0 I haven’t even stayed at a Holiday Inn recently!\u00a0 \u00a0When I was first starting my business, I remember a young bride locked the door to her Bridal room when everyone left.<\/span><\/p>\n She sat down and looked at me straight in the eye and poured out her concerns to me, “Steve, I don’t think I can go through with this.\u00a0 I need advice.\u00a0 I don’t want to listen to my parents, my girlfriends, or anyone.\u00a0 I need someone neutral.\u00a0 You need to talk to me.\u00a0 \u00a0”<\/p>\n My first thoughts?\u00a0 This is just a usual nervous bride.\u00a0 She’ll snap out of it sooner or later.<\/em><\/p>\n The nervous Bride continued to explain why she had cold feet and then I answered.\u00a0 \u00a0 “Look,” I took a breath and basically paraphrased the bible’s definition of love.\u00a0 “You need to ask yourself if you love him.\u00a0 You need to understand that love isn’t a feeling, it’s not an emotion.\u00a0 It’s purely a commitment.\u00a0 It’s unlike any other commitment, but that’s what it is.”\u00a0 I had to throw a joke in there, “So I love my Philadelphia Eagles, but I hate them at the same time.\u00a0 Hate, joy, happiness, sorrow, these are emotions.\u00a0 These are things I experience during one hour of watching the Eagles.\u00a0 \u00a0But I\u00a0\u00a0still love them.\u00a0 Get it?\u00a0 That’s commitment.”<\/p>\n The Bride nodded.<\/p>\n I looked at the Bride straight in the eye and said, “I’m going to leave this room.\u00a0 \u00a0And you literally have two choices here and two doors.\u00a0 One door will bring you to the ceremony.\u00a0 The other will lead you to the back entrance of the house and straight to the limo.\u00a0 Both decisions are going to affect you forever.\u00a0 \u00a0Neither is absolutely right or wrong.\u00a0 \u00a0 Just know there’s no turning back whatever you decide.”<\/p>\n I left the room and came back around five minutes.\u00a0 \u00a0The Bride had left the building and left a note to the groom.\u00a0 They never did reconcile and the Bride did end up marrying someone she loved.\u00a0 \u00a0She did thank me a few years later but didn’t book me for her 2nd Hawaii Wedding.\u00a0 She thought it would have been awkward for her new husband.\u00a0 \u00a0 She never did tell me why groom#1 wasn’t the man for her.\u00a0 He seemed like a nice guy.\u00a0 \u00a0Hey, sometimes nice guys finish last.<\/p>\n Here’s a couple who knew who to have fun.\u00a0 Their wedding vacation didn’t start off well.\u00a0 The Bride got her cell stolen.\u00a0 She later got a mild case of allergies.\u00a0 \u00a0The Groom fell down a hiking trail.\u00a0 On their wedding day, it rained.\u00a0 \u00a0The next few days later, it stormed really bad.\u00a0 \u00a0Oh, I forgot to mention, they came to Hawaii because Hurricane Maria devastated Puerto Rico, and that’s where they originally were planning to tie the knot.<\/p>\n But despite all of this happening, they still had the time of their lives.<\/p>\n [srizonfbalbum id=87]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" I’ll steal a line from our politicians, but “Let Me Be Clear,” that feeling a bit nervous on your wedding day is 100% completely natural.\u00a0 \u00a0The real question is if it should be of any concern. 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YOU’RE JUST NERVOUS OR ANXIOUS<\/strong><\/h3>\n
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