{"id":3555,"date":"2018-03-08T12:39:55","date_gmt":"2018-03-08T12:39:55","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.dreamweddingshawaii.com\/?p=3555"},"modified":"2018-03-14T01:52:51","modified_gmt":"2018-03-14T01:52:51","slug":"arie-luyendyk-the-bachelor-ends-engagement-america-overreacts","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.dreamweddingshawaii.com\/arie-luyendyk-the-bachelor-ends-engagement-america-overreacts\/","title":{"rendered":"Arie Luyendyk, The Bachelor, Ends Engagement, America Overreacts"},"content":{"rendered":"<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/EP-JkkXhBqM\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;m a recent fan of &#8220;The Bachelor&#8221; franchise.\u00a0 \u00a0A good friend of mine got me interested in it and I&#8217;ve been tuning in for the last few years.\u00a0 \u00a0 I actually have some loose ties to &#8220;The Bachelor&#8221; franchise as I had the opportunity to photograph one of the Bachelors years ago.\u00a0 \u00a0Cool dude, forgot his name &#8211; haha.\u00a0 Actually I know who he is but it&#8217;s a secret.\u00a0 But he&#8217;s very cool.\u00a0 They are just regular guys.\u00a0 He paid me a really nice compliment too.\u00a0 He said the photoshoot with me was one of the best he&#8217;s been on.\u00a0 \u00a0And he shot with a lot of big name people!<\/p>\n<p>Anyway, if you&#8217;re not a fan of the show, let me clue you in on what happens.\u00a0 \u00a0A very eligible bachelor or bachelorette gets a chance to find love by dating a plethora of good looking smart contestants.\u00a0 The process takes around two months and The Bachelor\/Bachelorette is expected, not forced, to propose to the woman\/man he or she falls in love with.\u00a0 \u00a0The world of The Bachelor only exists in reality TV.\u00a0 Afterall, what type of person would be okay with being in an open relationship with 20 plus other people?\u00a0 And what type of individual would be okay with being proposed to a few weeks after their dream lover sleeps with two other contestants?\u00a0 \u00a0It truly takes a special person who can compartmentalize relationships and operate without any jealousy.\u00a0 \u00a0But of course, jealousy, personal agendas, all come to fruition and that&#8217;s where ABC gets their drama.\u00a0 And oh boy, is their drama.<\/p>\n<p>This year, Arie Luyendyk, went into The Bachelor with an open heart and tried his best to find love.\u00a0 \u00a0He opened his heart to almost every contestant, compartmentalizing each relationship as though they were individually unique.\u00a0 His open heart left him with a major dilemma because in the end, he truly fell in love with three women.\u00a0 It was so bad, even his parents couldn&#8217;t help him make a choice.\u00a0 They, his parents and family, loved both of the women they met.<\/p>\n<p>In the end, he chose one woman and proposed to her.\u00a0 \u00a0But after the cameras turned off, and TV reality shut down, he realized he made a mistake, broke off the engagement and chased after the runner-up.<\/p>\n<p>America overreacted, predictably.\u00a0 \u00a0The women contestants wrongly labeled Arie as a manipulator and Lauren B, as a victim.\u00a0 \u00a0Crazy talk in my opinion.\u00a0 \u00a0Currently, there&#8217;s still a lot of hate for Arie for backing out of the relationship.\u00a0 All unjustified.<\/p>\n<p>It just shows us how silly a large portion of our population is.<\/p>\n<p>But what does &#8220;Bachelor Nation&#8221; want?\u00a0 \u00a0For Arie to get married to a woman he doesn&#8217;t love?\u00a0 As fans of the show, we all want the best for Arie.\u00a0 \u00a0And if his story took a turn that was more dramatic, then just let it be.\u00a0 \u00a0What&#8217;s with all the hate and death threats.\u00a0 \u00a0It&#8217;s not your life&#8230;seessh.<\/p>\n<p>Being a wedding planner, I&#8217;ve seen a lot of broken engagements.\u00a0 And the hardest broken engagements happen during the wedding planning process.\u00a0 I talk to many women and men, who are so excited about getting married.\u00a0 \u00a0Then out of the blue, their wedding is off.\u00a0 \u00a0<strong>But the worst broken engagements happen\u00a0on the day of their wedding.<\/strong>\u00a0 \u00a0I have stories to tell you about brides leaving their groom at the altar or grooms getting cold feet.\u00a0 \u00a0It&#8217;s horrible, it&#8217;s embarrassing.\u00a0 It&#8217;s not a nice sight.<\/p>\n<p>Arie broke off his engagement a month and a half\u00a0after the show ended.\u00a0 In real life, that&#8217;s not that bad.\u00a0 <strong>That&#8217;s actually very good.<\/strong>\u00a0 If a man or a woman can&#8217;t see a future with the person they are with, why drag it on a day further?\u00a0 Repeat, what Arie did was very good.\u00a0 \u00a0Yeah, watching that breakup on TV was brutal.\u00a0 But what breakup isn&#8217;t brutal?\u00a0 \u00a0It&#8217;s a lot less embarrassing than getting left at the altar.\u00a0 Let me tell you that.<\/p>\n<p>What many of the angry fans of &#8220;Bachelor Nation&#8221; don&#8217;t understand is the process of the Bachelor or Bachelorette is surreal.\u00a0 Even with good relationships, engagements don&#8217;t come after 2 months of meeting a person, and a just a few dates (some with other people).\u00a0 \u00a0Most of my clients live together for years, buy a house, have kids and then decide to get married.\u00a0 The Bachelor franchise screws with everyone who takes part in it, including the audience.<\/p>\n<p>I truly wish the best for Arie and Lauren.\u00a0 They&#8217;ll be in my prayers for some time.\u00a0 And hey, if they ever choose to elope or maybe just get some photos in Hawaii, I hope they choose Dream Weddings Hawaii!\u00a0 But you wouldn&#8217;t know if I married them or took pics of them or not.\u00a0 As with all my celebrity couples who used my services, my lips are shut.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I&#8217;m a recent fan of &#8220;The Bachelor&#8221; franchise.\u00a0 \u00a0A good friend of mine got me interested in it and I&#8217;ve been tuning in for the last few years.\u00a0 \u00a0 I actually have some loose ties to &#8220;The Bachelor&#8221; 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